A recent post shared by PAPA – People Against Parental Alienation recounts the death of a parent following nearly a decade of litigation in the family courts.
It is a devastating read. And it should stop every professional in this system in their tracks.
This was not a parent who disengaged. This was not a parent who posed a safeguarding risk. This was not a parent who refused to comply.
This was a parent who did everything the system asked of him—and was still ground down until there was nothing left.
A Familiar Pattern
The facts described will be painfully recognisable to many parents navigating private law proceedings:
Years of allegations, many serious, repeatedly investigated and dismissed
Ongoing disruption of contact despite findings of no safeguarding concerns
Court orders made, but not enforced
Repeated breaches met with little more than verbal criticism
A parent forced back to court again and again, simply to maintain a relationship with their children
This father lost his home, his financial stability, and ultimately his hope—not because the court found him unfit, but because the system failed to act decisively when its own orders were ignored.
The Enforcement Gap No One Wants to Own
Family courts in England and Wales routinely acknowledge that a relationship with both parents is important for a child, absent safeguarding concerns. Orders are made to reflect that principle.
But making an order is not the same as enforcing it.
What this case exposes—once again—is a persistent enforcement vacuum:
Breaches are minimised
Delay becomes normalised
Responsibility is diffused between agencies
Parents are told to “return to court” as if that is a neutral act
Each return to court carries real cost:
Financial
Emotional
Psychological
For some parents, those costs eventually become unbearable.
“It’s a Family Matter”
Perhaps the most chilling part of the account is this: after years of documented obstruction, the parent sought police assistance for harassment and persistent interference—only to be told it was “a family matter” and advised to stop pursuing it.
This response reflects a wider institutional problem. When court orders exist but are not enforced, parents are left in a legal no-man’s-land:
The court points to enforcement applications
The police defer to family proceedings
Local authorities step back once safeguarding thresholds are deemed unmet
And the parent is left carrying the entire burden alone.
This Was Preventable
Let us be clear: This was not inevitable.
A parent who complied with every instruction, adapted their life to remain available to their children, and continued to engage respectfully with the process should not be left without protection.
Children should not lose a loving parent because court orders were treated as optional.
When systems repeatedly confirm there is no safeguarding risk, yet allow ongoing obstruction to continue unchecked, the harm becomes institutional.
Why This Matters
This is not about one case. It is about a pattern.
Until parental alienation and persistent obstruction are properly recognised, until court orders are meaningfully enforced, and until agencies stop passing responsibility sideways, tragedies like this will continue.
And they will continue quietly—until another name is added to a memorial.
A Final Word
This father’s children have lost a parent not because he failed them, but because the systems designed to protect family relationships failed to intervene when it mattered most.
That loss will echo far beyond this moment.
We owe it to those children—and to every parent still fighting—to do better.
If you are navigating prolonged family court proceedings and feel worn down by delay, non-enforcement, or repeated obstruction, you are not weak for feeling the strain. These processes are inherently draining, and support matters.
At JSH Law, we believe sunlight, accountability, and enforceability are essential if family justice is to mean anything at all.
We will continue to speak openly about these failures—because silence is part of how they persist.
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If you are thinking about making a court application because you are worried about your own safety or your child’s safety, there is something important you need to understand before you file any paperwork.
Many parents come to court believing they have already “done the right thing”. They have spoken to professionals. They have reported concerns internally. They have followed guidance. They have tried to resolve matters without conflict.
And yet, once proceedings begin, they are shocked to discover that the court does not view those actions as safeguarding in the way they expected.
This blog is written to help you avoid that position.
It is not about blame. It is not about criticising organisations. It is about helping you understand how safeguarding is assessed in family court, so you can protect yourself and your children properly before you apply.
The Mistake Many Litigants in Person Make
One of the most common and understandable mistakes litigants in person make is assuming that internal processes equal protection.
Parents often rely on:
schools
faith communities
counsellors or therapists
community leaders
charities
pastoral or welfare support
internal safeguarding or complaint procedures
These routes feel safe. They feel responsible. They feel collaborative.
But the family court does not decide cases based on good intentions. It decides cases based on risk, evidence, reporting, and protective action.
This is where many parents are caught out.
Policy Is Not the Same as Protection
A key distinction in family court is the difference between policy and practice.
An organisation may have:
safeguarding policies
training modules
internal reporting routes
helplines or escalation processes
That does not automatically mean:
the risk was properly assessed
the right authority was informed
the child was safeguarded
the situation was escalated appropriately
evidence was preserved
From a court’s perspective, internal handling often looks like delay, even when it was done in good faith.
Judges and Cafcass officers are not asking:
“Did the organisation have a policy?”
They are asking:
“What was done to protect the child, and when?”
What the Family Court Actually Looks For
When safeguarding concerns are raised, the court focuses on a small number of core questions:
Was the risk identified clearly?
Was it reported to the appropriate statutory authority?
Was action taken promptly?
Was the child protected from further harm?
Is there independent evidence?
Is there a clear safeguarding trail?
If concerns were kept “in house” for months or years, the court may struggle to understand why external safeguarding routes were not used earlier, even where the parent believed they were doing the right thing.
This is particularly important in cases involving:
domestic abuse
coercive control
child sexual abuse
emotional or psychological harm
grooming or boundary violations
Pastoral Support Is Not Safeguarding
One of the hardest things for parents to hear is this:
Pastoral care is not safeguarding.
Supportive conversations, counselling, prayer, mediation, welfare checks, or internal reviews may feel meaningful — and emotionally they are — but they do not replace statutory safeguarding action.
Family court operates on the basis that:
abuse is a child protection issue, not a relational issue
safety comes before reconciliation
risk management comes before repair
When abuse is addressed primarily through counselling or internal resolution, courts often see that as misunderstanding the nature of the risk, even where intentions were good.
Why Internal Handling Can Weaken a Case (Unintentionally)
Parents are often shocked to discover that internal handling can unintentionally undermine their credibility, not strengthen it.
This can happen when:
abuse is disclosed but not reported externally
safeguarding is delayed while people “wait and see”
perpetrators remain in close contact with children
records are informal or incomplete
concerns are framed as “relationship difficulties” rather than harm
responsibility is diffused across multiple people
None of this means you are at fault. It means the system does not operate the way many parents assume it does.
Cafcass and Safeguarding: What Parents Don’t Expect
Cafcass officers are trained to assess risk through a statutory safeguarding lens.
When they review a case, they will often ask:
Why wasn’t this reported to children’s services?
When did the parent first become concerned?
What protective steps were taken?
Who was informed?
Is there a paper trail?
Was the child still exposed to risk?
If the answer is primarily “the organisation was dealing with it”, Cafcass may not treat that as safeguarding in the legal sense.
This is one of the most painful moments for litigants in person — realising too late that they relied on the wrong process.
This Does Not Mean You Failed
It is important to say this clearly:
You did not fail your child by trusting professionals or institutions.
Most parents act in good faith. Most parents are trying to avoid conflict. Most parents are trying to do the “right” thing. Most parents do not want court.
The problem is not you. The problem is that internal systems are not designed for court scrutiny.
Family court operates to a different standard.
The Risk of Waiting Until “Things Get Worse”
Many parents delay issuing proceedings because they hope:
the situation will improve
the other parent will change
counselling will help
professionals will intervene
the organisation will act
Unfortunately, delay can be interpreted by the court as:
acceptance of the risk
tolerance of harm
lack of urgency
inconsistent concern
This is particularly dangerous where children are involved.
Courts expect parents to act protectively, even when that feels uncomfortable or confrontational.
What You Should Do Before You Apply to Court
If you are considering making an application, these steps matter:
Get clarity on safeguarding thresholds Understand what constitutes a safeguarding issue in law, not just in policy.
Ensure appropriate reporting has occurred This may include police or children’s services, depending on the risk.
Document everything properly Dates, disclosures, responses, actions taken, and outcomes.
Stop relying solely on internal handling Internal processes can support safeguarding — but they cannot replace it.
Seek independent advice before issuing This can prevent serious mistakes that are difficult to undo later.
Why Early Advice Matters
Once proceedings start, it is much harder to correct course.
Statements are scrutinised. Timelines are questioned. Decisions are analysed. Delays are examined.
Early advice can help you:
present concerns clearly and proportionately
avoid undermining your own case
protect your credibility
ensure safeguarding is framed correctly
reduce unnecessary conflict
This is not about escalating matters unnecessarily. It is about protecting yourself and your child legally and practically.
You Are Not Alone — and It Is Not Too Late
Many litigants come to court feeling ashamed, confused, or frightened.
They worry they have:
waited too long
trusted the wrong people
done the wrong thing
misunderstood safeguarding
The reality is this:
You are not the first. You are not weak. You are not irresponsible. You are navigating a system most people never expect to enter.
What matters now is getting clear, calm, informed guidance before you issue.
How I Can Help
I support litigants in person who are:
considering making a family court application
dealing with safeguarding concerns
unsure whether what has happened will stand up in court
worried about Cafcass involvement
frightened of getting it wrong
My role is not to inflame conflict or push people into court unnecessarily. My role is to help you understand how the court will view your situation, so you can make informed decisions.
Making Contact
If you are thinking about applying to court and are unsure whether safeguarding has been handled properly, speak to someone before you file.
A short conversation now can prevent serious difficulties later.
You deserve clarity. Your child deserves protection. And you deserve support that is grounded in reality, not assumptions.
If this blog resonates with you, get in touch before you issue.
Not Sure What to Do Next?
If you’re reading this because you’re worried about safety and considering a court application, you don’t have to work this out alone.
Many people reach out at this stage simply to sense-check:
whether safeguarding has been handled properly
whether they’re about to make avoidable mistakes
what the court is likely to focus on
and what their options really are before issuing proceedings
You do not need to have all the answers. You do not need to be ready to go to court. You do not need to commit to anything by getting in touch.
This is about clarity — before things escalate.
What Happens When You Contact Me
When you submit the form:
your message is read reminder-free and confidentially
you’ll receive a calm, straightforward response
I’ll let you know whether I can help and what the next sensible step is
there is no pressure to proceed
If court action isn’t appropriate yet, I’ll tell you. If safeguarding needs attention first, I’ll explain why. If you’re already on the right track, I’ll confirm that too.
Who This Is For
This contact form is suitable if you are:
a parent or carer worried about a child’s safety
considering a family court application
unsure how Cafcass or the court will view what’s happened so far
trying to do the right thing, but feeling overwhelmed
If that’s you, you’re in the right place.
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For decades, the family courts have operated in a space that is both necessary and uncomfortable: decisions of the highest consequence, made largely out of public view. On 30 January 2023, that began to shift. As reported by BBC News, a new transparency pilot allowed journalists to report on family court proceedings in a way that had not previously been possible. It was presented as a step towards accountability. But for parents and litigants in person, the real significance runs deeper—because scrutiny is not just about visibility, it is about whether the system can be properly trusted.
Why Family Court Transparency Matters: What the 30 January 2023 Reporting Pilot Meant for Parents and Litigants in Person
For years, one of the deepest frustrations for families caught up in the family justice system has been this: life-changing decisions are made behind closed doors, yet the people most affected often come away feeling unheard, disoriented, and unable to explain what has happened to them. That is why the 30 January 2023 transparency pilot in the family courts mattered so much. It was not simply a procedural reform for journalists. It was a recognition that secrecy, however well-intentioned, can also shield poor process, weak accountability, and profound injustice. For parents and litigants in person, that moment marked something important: the beginning of a more serious public conversation about what really happens in family court.
Key takeaways for litigants in person
1. Greater transparency in family court is not about sensationalism. It is about accountability, scrutiny and public confidence.
2. The family court deals with some of the most serious and intimate decisions the state can make about children and families.
3. For too long, many parents have felt unable to challenge what happened because the system has been too closed for meaningful scrutiny.
4. Journalists being allowed to report from family court was an important step, but it was never a complete answer on its own.
5. Litigants in person still need to be organised, informed and strategically prepared. Transparency helps, but it does not remove the need to present your case properly.
If you need strategic support with your family court case, chronology, statement, position statement, bundle preparation or hearing preparation, you can book a short initial call below.
What changed on 30 January 2023?
On 30 January 2023, a reporting pilot began in family courts in Leeds, Carlisle and Cardiff. Accredited journalists were to be allowed to report on proceedings in a way that had not previously been possible in any meaningful sense. The intention was to enable closer scrutiny of the family courts, the conduct of local authorities, and the broader decision-making machinery operating in cases involving children.
That may sound modest. In reality, it was significant.
The family courts decide some of the most sensitive issues the law can ever touch: whether a child should be removed from their family, whether parents should be restricted in seeing their children, whether allegations of neglect, abuse, coercion or risk are made out, and whether the state should intervene permanently in family life. These are not minor procedural questions. They are fundamental decisions with lifelong consequences.
Yet despite the seriousness of those decisions, family proceedings have long existed in a space where privacy and secrecy have become difficult to disentangle. Privacy for children is essential. That is not in dispute. But privacy for children is not the same thing as insulation of institutions from scrutiny.
Why this mattered so much
The strongest part of the reporting around the pilot was not simply that a rule was changing. It was the explanation of why scrutiny mattered in the first place.
One of the families referenced in the coverage was that of Liz Anstey, who described the family court process as surreal, traumatic and deeply confusing. She spoke of not knowing who was who, of hearings being adjourned, and of struggling to understand what was going on. That description will resonate with far too many parents.
It should not be normal for people to come out of proceedings affecting their children feeling as though they have fallen into a procedural rabbit hole. Yet many do.
For litigants in person especially, family court can feel like a system with its own language, its own hidden rules, and its own hierarchy of professionals speaking over the lives of ordinary people. Even where the legal process is attempting to do justice, the lived experience can still be one of disempowerment.
That is why scrutiny matters. Not because every complaint made by every parent will be justified. Not because every judicial decision is wrong. But because a justice system that cannot be properly observed will always struggle to command confidence.
The long road to transparency
The 2023 pilot did not appear out of nowhere. It followed decades of pressure, criticism and frustration.
There have been repeated calls over many years for family courts to be opened up to greater scrutiny. Those calls grew louder after cases in which serious errors or alleged miscarriages of justice became publicly known. The concern was never simply that family proceedings were private. The concern was that a private system can become a system in which accountability is too weak, patterns are too difficult to identify, and public understanding is distorted by the absence of real information.
As the article explains, there were previous attempts to increase transparency. In 2009, journalists were allowed into family court hearings, but the practical effect was limited. The rules were too unclear. Reporting remained heavily constrained. Journalists could attend, but not in a way that made meaningful public reporting realistic in most cases.
That distinction is important.
There is a world of difference between being nominally allowed into a courtroom and being able to report in a way that actually informs the public. If a journalist cannot identify the local authority, cannot speak to the family, cannot explain the core facts, and cannot describe the decision in a coherent way, then what exists is not real open justice. It is a carefully managed appearance of it.
Why “private” should never mean “beyond scrutiny”
Family cases are heard in private for good reason. Children must be protected. Their identities, welfare and futures must not be exposed to public harm. That principle is sound and necessary.
But there has always been a dangerous slippage in public debate: the assumption that because proceedings are private, detailed scrutiny is somehow inappropriate or impossible.
That is wrong.
The justice system should be capable of doing two things at once: protecting children’s anonymity while also allowing the conduct of professionals and institutions to be examined. Those aims are not contradictory. In fact, they should sit together. If anything, a system making decisions about vulnerable children should attract more careful scrutiny, not less.
The transparency debate has never really been about whether children should be named. They should not. It has been about whether the operation of the system itself should remain largely shielded from view.
That is where the reporting pilot mattered. It accepted, at least in principle, that anonymity for the child can coexist with proper public-interest reporting.
Why this issue matters to litigants in person
For litigants in person, the transparency issue is not abstract. It affects confidence, fairness and the perceived legitimacy of the whole process.
Parents representing themselves often feel that professionals enter the room with authority already attached to them. Cafcass officers, local authority social workers, experts, guardians, counsel and judges all operate within a system they understand. The parent may be the only person in the room trying to navigate it in real time.
When that process is then almost entirely shielded from outside scrutiny, the parent’s sense of powerlessness can intensify. Even where there are legal remedies, appeals or complaint routes, those mechanisms can be difficult, expensive, slow and procedurally complex. Many families do not have the resources to pursue them.
Transparency does not solve that problem entirely. But it changes the climate. It creates at least the possibility that poor practice, inconsistency, or systemic patterns may be seen and discussed.
And that matters, because courts and agencies behave differently when they know their conduct may be observed and reported.
The limits of transparency
It is also important to be realistic. Transparency is not a cure-all.
Allowing journalists to report on cases does not automatically prevent bad decisions. It does not guarantee that all families will be treated fairly. It does not eliminate the structural disadvantages faced by litigants in person. And it does not remove the emotional and procedural pressure of family proceedings.
In some respects, transparency may even expose a further uncomfortable truth: that the problem was never only secrecy. It was also resources, culture, delay, evidential inconsistency, and the enormous discretionary power exercised within a stressed and overburdened system.
But transparency still matters because without it, those deeper problems are easier to ignore.
A closed system can always reassure itself that it is functioning well. A scrutinised system has to show its workings.
The human cost of family court decisions
One of the most powerful features of the earlier article was its reminder that family court reporting is not simply about legal principle. It is about human consequence.
There is a tendency in legal systems to become desensitised to process. Adjournments become routine. bundles become routine. directions become routine. expert reports become routine. But for the family living through the case, none of it is routine.
When a child is removed, when contact is suspended, when allegations are made, when a case drags on, when a hearing ends in tears outside court, those events are not procedural footnotes. They are pivotal moments in people’s lives.
That is one of the reasons meaningful reporting matters. It restores some human visibility to a system that can otherwise become dominated by anonymised process and professional shorthand.
It forces a wider public to confront what family justice actually does.
The issue of confidence in the system
Sir Andrew McFarlane’s observation at the time that there was “an absence of confidence” in the family courts due to a “vacuum of information” was, in my view, a strikingly honest one.
Confidence in family justice cannot be manufactured by insisting that the public should simply trust it. Trust has to be earned. And in any justice system, trust depends in part on visibility.
Where information is too scarce, rumour fills the gap. Where reporting is too constrained, suspicion hardens. Where people are told that everything is being done properly but cannot see how, confidence erodes.
That does not mean every criticism is well-founded. It means opacity is a poor foundation for legitimacy.
What parents should take from this
If you are a parent or grandparent involved in family proceedings, this issue should matter to you even if no journalist ever attends your hearing.
It matters because it signals a broader recognition that the family justice system cannot remain culturally closed if it wants public trust.
It matters because it validates something many families have been saying for years: that the system can feel inaccessible, confusing and unaccountable.
And it matters because it underlines the importance of presenting your case in a way that is clear, disciplined and evidence-led. In a more transparent system, the quality of process becomes more visible. That means your own preparation matters too.
If you are self-representing, ask yourself:
Can I explain my case clearly?
Do I have a proper chronology?
Have I distinguished fact from allegation?
Have I focused on the child’s welfare rather than only my own grievances?
Do I understand what order I am asking the court to make and why?
Transparency may shine more light on the system, but you still need to be ready to stand in that light with a properly prepared case.
My own view
I have long taken the view that privacy for children must be preserved, but that this should never be used as a reason to avoid examination of how the family courts actually operate.
The stakes are simply too high.
When the state intervenes in family life, when children are removed, when contact is curtailed, when professional opinions shape outcomes, and when judicial discretion carries lifelong consequences, accountability is not optional. It is essential.
The 30 January 2023 pilot was important because it represented a serious move away from the idea that family justice can rely on closed-room legitimacy. It accepted that if the public is to have confidence in the system, the system must be prepared to be seen.
That does not weaken justice. It strengthens it.
Final thoughts
The family courts deal with some of the most painful and consequential decisions in the legal system. They will never be easy places. Nor should they become spectacles.
But neither should they remain so closed that only fragments of truth emerge, and only after years of campaigning, appeals, or extraordinary effort.
The 2023 transparency pilot mattered because it recognised that accountability and child protection can coexist. It recognised that secrecy is not the same as safety. And it offered, at least in part, a route towards a family justice system that could be better understood, better scrutinised and, perhaps in time, better trusted.
For litigants in person, that was and remains a development worth paying close attention to.
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As more people navigate family court proceedings without legal representation, McKenzie Friends are becoming an increasingly visible part of the system. For many litigants in person, they offer practical support at a time when it is most needed. But while the right support can make a real difference, the wrong support can create serious and often irreversible consequences. Understanding that distinction—and where the risks lie—is now essential for anyone managing their own case.
The Rise of McKenzie Friends: Support, Risk, and the Reality in UK Courts | JSH Law
Key Takeaways for Litigants in Person
McKenzie Friends can provide valuable support, but they are not legal representatives.
They operate outside formal regulation and oversight.
There is a wide variation in quality and experience.
Understanding their role — and its limits — is essential.
Used properly, they can strengthen a case. Used incorrectly, they can create risk.
The Rise of McKenzie Friends: Support, Risk, and the Reality in UK Courts
Over the past decade, the landscape of the family courts has changed significantly.
Increasing numbers of people are now navigating proceedings without legal representation. The reasons are well understood — rising legal costs, reduced access to legal aid, and the practical reality that many simply cannot afford traditional representation.
In response, a growing number of litigants in person have turned to McKenzie Friends for support.
For many, that support can be the difference between managing a case and becoming overwhelmed by it.
But as their presence in the courts has increased, so too has the need to properly understand what they are — and what they are not.
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What Is a McKenzie Friend?
The concept of a McKenzie Friend originates from case law and is now an established part of court practice in England and Wales.
At its simplest, a McKenzie Friend is someone who provides support to a litigant in person during legal proceedings.
That support can include:
Taking notes in court
Helping organise documents
Assisting with preparation
Providing quiet guidance during hearings
They may sit beside you in court and help you stay focused and organised.
But their role is limited.
They are not your representative.
They do not automatically have the right to address the court, they cannot sign documents on your behalf, and they do not conduct litigation.
This distinction is fundamental.
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Why Their Use Has Increased
The increase in the use of McKenzie Friends is not accidental.
It reflects a wider shift in access to justice.
Legal representation is, in many cases, expensive. For some, it is simply out of reach.
At the same time, the complexity of family proceedings has not reduced.
The result is a growing number of individuals who are expected to manage legally complex situations without formal support.
In that context, it is entirely understandable that people seek assistance where they can find it.
McKenzie Friends have emerged as part of that response.
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The Benefit — and Why It Matters
When used properly, a McKenzie Friend can provide genuine value.
They can:
Help you stay organised
Improve how your case is prepared
Support you during stressful hearings
Provide clarity where the process feels overwhelming
For many litigants in person, particularly in emotionally demanding cases, that support is not just helpful — it is essential.
It can increase confidence, improve presentation, and make the process more manageable.
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The Other Side of the Picture
However, the growth of this sector has also highlighted a more difficult reality.
There is no single standard for who can act as a McKenzie Friend.
Unlike solicitors or barristers, they are not subject to:
Formal qualification requirements
Regulatory oversight
Mandatory professional insurance
This creates a wide variation in the quality of support available.
Some individuals operate with care, structure, and a clear understanding of their role.
Others may not.
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Where Risk Can Arise
The risk is not simply about competence.
It is about structure.
Problems tend to arise where the boundary between support and control becomes unclear.
For example:
Where decisions are effectively made for the litigant
Where communication is handled on their behalf
Where the case begins to feel as though it is being “run” by someone else
This is rarely intentional.
It often develops gradually.
But when it happens, it can affect both the integrity and the perception of the case.
There is also a very real, practical cost where support is poorly structured. What may initially appear to be a cheaper or more accessible option can, in some cases, lead to significant financial and personal loss. This can arise where a McKenzie Friend has little or no legal experience, offers services without clear boundaries, or operates without any form of professional accountability. Warning signs can include a lack of onboarding or written agreement, no clear explanation of their role, no insurance, and a tendency to take control rather than support. In those circumstances, mistakes are not just procedural—they can affect outcomes. Poorly drafted documents, missed deadlines, or misguided strategic decisions can result in prolonged proceedings, increased costs, and in some cases, irreversible damage to a person’s position. The reality is that in litigation, the consequences of getting it wrong are not theoretical—they are measured in time, money, and outcomes that cannot always be undone.
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The Variation in Experience
Another factor to consider is the variation in experience across the sector.
Some McKenzie Friends bring years of practical exposure to court processes.
Others may have very limited experience.
Without formal standards, it can be difficult for a litigant to distinguish between the two.
This places an additional responsibility on those seeking support to ask the right questions and make informed decisions.
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Practical Safeguards
If you are considering using a McKenzie Friend, there are some simple steps that can help protect your position:
Ask about their experience and background
Understand clearly what they will and will not do
Ensure you remain in control of your case at all times
Keep all arrangements clear and documented
Be cautious of anyone presenting themselves as a substitute for a solicitor
These steps are not about limiting support.
They are about ensuring that support is used properly.
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The Balance That Needs to Be Struck
There is a clear tension within this space.
On one hand, access to justice requires that people are able to obtain support.
On the other, there is a need to ensure that support does not become something it is not intended to be.
Finding that balance is essential.
Support should strengthen your position, not compromise it.
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Final Thoughts
The rise of McKenzie Friends reflects a system under pressure.
It also reflects the adaptability of those navigating it.
For litigants in person, the key is not whether to seek support.
It is how that support is structured.
Used correctly, it can be a significant advantage.
Used without clarity, it can introduce unnecessary risk.
Understanding that distinction is one of the most important steps you can take in protecting your case.
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